How to Answer the “Respectful Dialogue” Essay Question
Mar 08, 2024
Over the last few years, a new type of essay question has been gaining popularity in college applications. At Princeton University, for example, students are asked to write a 500-word essay in addition to the common app personal statement and other supplemental essays:
“Princeton values community and encourages students, faculty, staff and leadership to engage in respectful conversations that can expand their perspectives and challenge their ideas and beliefs. As a prospective member of this community, reflect on how your lived experiences will impact the conversations you will have in the classroom, the dining hall or other campus spaces. What lessons have you learned in life thus far? What will your classmates learn from you? In short, how has your lived experience shaped you?”
The world has become more polarized over the last several years, so it makes sense that this type of essay is becoming popular. Universities want a diverse student body, with a variety of students from different walks of life.
Teenagers tend to be quite passionate in their feelings and perspectives, and many are finding larger audiences now with social media platforms. Universities want students who can engage in respectful dialogue with others who have differing points of view. Answering this type of question is delicate, of course. How much should you talk about your strongly held beliefs? If you're part of a debate team, this type of question may be easier to answer, since you're probably experienced in respectful dialogue.
If you're not part of a debate team, it would be wise to answer this question in a way that would be appreciated by anyone (regardless of their political or religious views). Keep the focus on civility, sincere listening, an open mind, and your shared humanity with the other person. It's also wise not to write about a topic that's hot in the news right now because it can be triggering to a reader who doesn't share your point of view.
And of course, it's a good idea to share this particular essay with others to get their feedback. When we help high school seniors applying to college, this is one of the most sensitive essays in the student's application. We pay particular attention to the tone and often ask students to change their topic or the way they write about certain matters. Altogether, it's best to err on the side of caution. As the old adage goes, “it's better be safe than sorry”!
